Disappointments

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We all have disappointments in life. We have our hearts set on something that we’d like to achieve, experience or have, but sometimes and unfortunately (apparently) we don’t get what we want. With a sunken heart, our energy drops into the duldrums and the door to a spin-off of negative thoughts opens. So, how to dust yourself off and move on? Here are my top 4 tips…

Acceptance – “It is what it is” and there’s not a lot (if anything) that can be done to change it now. Feeling down about something isn’t going to change it.

Choice over our thoughts – We all have the freedom to think the thoughts we do, and to assign a meaning or interpretation to everything around us. Therefore in any given moment we can choose to look at an unpleasant result and turn it around to be something to celebrate instead.

Power of Now – The past is a memory, the future isn’t here yet, so – right here, right now, is what matters the most. You can choose how you want to feel. Thoughts create how we feel. It’s better to feel happy rather than sad, right? What thoughts can you think to create a better feeling? For example, you could imagine that in the future that object you had wanted will have something “wrong” with it, and how lucky you are that you missed it. You can imagine something better instead.

Faith & Gratitude – Have faith that what is best for you is on it’s way. Be thankful for all the great things you already have.

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